“For we know that our old self was crucified with him so that the body ruled by sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves to sin …” Romans 6:6 (NIV)
Sometimes the young girl we once were, the one who wanted to be noticed, the one who sought after a boy’s attention or longed for her parents’ approval, is not completely gone.
Maybe there’s a side of me still wanting acceptance and attention. This possibility makes me uncomfortable. I don’t want to be an insecure woman.
I want to be a woman who reflects love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23). I want to have selfless attributes of a heart that reflects Christ in me, the fruit of His Spirit on display. A lasting grace that isn’t about getting attention, but about serving and loving others more than I love myself.
I want that kind of beauty for me, and for all my friends.
But to gain it, I have to give something up. I’m going to have to die first.
Die to the me who is all about me.
Die to self.
Because, when I die to me, another woman can emerge. A woman whose character is found in the love she gives, the joy she lives and the peace when she forgives.
A woman who doesn’t make her life about gaining attention, but giving it.
Today’s key verse reminds me that Jesus’ work on the cross makes it possible for me to become this kind of woman: “For we know that our old self was crucified with him so that the body ruled by sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves to sin” (Romans 6:6).
Christ died so I don’t have to struggle with the sin of self-centeredness, the pull to make life about me. Christ’s new life in me means I no longer have to be a slave to needing attention. I can confidently put the spotlight on Him and others.
And here is the intriguing twist: A woman who possesses this type of beauty, who chooses others above herself is hard to find, yet she is easy to spot.
Jesus, I want to be beautiful the way You define beautiful. A woman whose life reflects Your life inside of me. Help me to die to myself so that You might daily live strong in me.