“We must show love through actions that are sincere, not through empty words.” 1 John 3:18
We all have different amounts of energy, wealth and talent, but we all have the exact same amount of time per day/week. You can always get more money, but you can’t get more time.
You only have a certain amount of allotted days, so you have to decide: What is your time worth? The most valuable thing you can give someone is your attention, because when you give attention to somebody you’re saying, “You matter to me. You are valuable. You are worth listening to. You are worth my time.”
The essence of relationships is not what we do for each other or the things we give to each other. The essence of true, loving relationships is how much we give of ourselves to another person.
The second law of love is this: The best expression of love is time.
The Bible says in 1 John 3:18, “We must show love through actions that are sincere, not through empty words”
I can’t tell you how many people I have spoken to who have said, “I don’t get it, Fay-Ann. I give my family everything they need. I’m a good provider. We live a very comfortable life. What more do they want?”
I’ll tell you what they want: They want you! Only you can give them your time. Nothing can compensate for time — no amount of gifts, money or clothes. Kids don’t need things; they need parents. Another video game is not the answer. They need you!
How do you find more time for the people who love you and that you need to love?
Let me give you one suggestion: Put away the phone and turn off the computer. Ephesians 5:2 says, “Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God” Love means giving up. It means I give up my agenda for your agenda. It means I give up my time for your time. It means I give up my preference for your preference. It means I give up what I’d rather do right now to do what you’d rather do right now. That is a sacrifice. That is love.
What are some of the ways you can show love to your family and friends this week through giving your time?
What changes do you need to make in your schedule so that you have more time to demonstrate your love through action?
What have you learned about love from following the example of Christ?